I thought her way of phrasing her question was – well, interesting. I realize that embedded in her question is a good bit of anxiety.  To be a captain is an honor and a big responsibility and it is natural for a new captain to confuse leadership with being a boss.  

Of course, being a good leader is more about listening than telling and the listening that is required is respectful, attentive, and appreciative listening.  People need to feel heard and understood; when they experience this, they will respond positively. 

I encouraged this young cheerleader to think about all the qualities she would like to see in a captain if she were under that person’s leadership.  I asked her to write these qualities down and then ask herself which ones she possessed and which ones she needed to strengthen or develop. 

What qualities do you think a captain should have?  I’d love to hear from you!