Last week you saw how an unpleasant interaction between a cheerleading coach and a cheerleader could be diffused using the Transactional Analysis (TA) paradigm.
To refresh your memory, the series of interactions (or transactions as they are called in TA) were as follows: (more…)
Yesterday, you saw how a seemingly innocent question from a cheerleading coach led to a nasty interaction with a cheerleader (all hypothetical, of course).
According to Transactional Analysis (TA), the way your Parent, Adult, and Child ego states or personality parts are constructed depends on your own history – the way you were treated by parents, siblings, and other people in your life plus your own life experiences. (more…)
Yep, that’s right. Coaches can play a big role in fostering moral development in their cheerleaders. How? Well, it may be easier than you think and you’re probably doing it already!
Performance excellence in cheerleading requires the consistent control of body, mind, and spirit. This means developing good habits such as attending practices on time, listening attentively to the coach, attending to the rules, practicing diligently, and being a team player. (more…)
If you’re a cheerleading coach, you are always giving feedback to your athletes. Chances are, unless you’ve gotten specialized training, the way you deliver feedback is similar to the way your coach gave you feedback.
It may seem simple. A cheerleader attempts to execute a toe touch and fails. What do you do? (more…)
Sometimes I hear from cheerleaders who either are frustrated with how things are going on their squad or who have suggestions they’d like to offer to their coaches but – they are reluctant to talk to their coaches about this. Now why would this be the case? (more…)
In my last post, I said that sometimes a cheer coach can unwittingly cause mental blocks. This can be due to the pressure to win and/or the lack of experience on the part of the coach.
So how can you know if a coach is the right one? Here are some things to look for. (more…)
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Here is her story: (more…)
As I mentioned in my last post on the perfectionistic cheerleader, those athletes who have more Perfectionistic Concerns also have more fear of failure. This term is another one that is thrown around a lot and not surprisingly, it is more complicated that you might think!
Why should someone have a fear of failure? Of course no one likes to fail but for some people, the fear of failing is excessive and it can lead to sub-par performances and mental blocks. They associate failure with aversive consequences – not just feeling bad but with real or imagined negative consequences.
And what are those consequences? It seems there are 5:
Fear of failure can lead to avoidance behavior. The thinking is something like this: “If I don’t try, I can’t fail.” The motivation is to avoid failure because of anticipatory shame (of failing).
Sport psychology research shows that fear of experiencing shame and embarrassmentis central to understanding the relationship between perfectionism and fear of failure. In other words, shame is an emotion at the core of fear of failure and it involves a negative scrutiny of one’s self along with feelings of incompetence. The experience is a painful one especially because the athlete feels that his or her entire self is a failure.
But reader – do not despair! I’ll be telling you what to do about this in my next posting!
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Cheerleading coaches must work with a range of personalities. This is fourth in a series of articles on this topic. Today we look at the Overachiever – the person who lives at the gym, who hides or works through injuries because s/he does not want to miss practice or working out, and who is a perfectionist.
This cheerleader type may be looking for approval and love (which may suggest that it is not happening at home). You can encourage the cheerleader to engage in other activities while setting a limit on gym time.
The best approach is a gentle one; don’t be judgmental or too quick to set strict limits. A friendly conversation about establishing a training schedule that is reasonable or that gradually decreases the amount of time spent at the gym is best. You can also try writing a “contract” with the Overachiever’s input and asking the cheerleader to sign it (if the training is extreme).
Hiding or working through injuries is serious, obviously. Letting the whole team know that doing so is NOT heroic but is, frankly, dangerous and puts the whole team in jeopardy would be a good idea (these are discussions that should happen at the start of the season and periodically throughout the year).
In terms of perfectionism, I would ask him/her to come up with a list of 10 famous athletes and find out if they never ever made a mistake. Of course, she/he will discover that the best athletes failed many times but the difference is their attitude about mistakes and set-backs, i.e., that they view them dispassionately and as opportunities to learn and improve their skills.
Cheerleading coaches should be paid well for their hard work and their ability to manage a range of personality types.
Most cheerleaders are effusively extraverted but occasionally you might come across a cheerleader who is shy, quiet, and who seems to fade into the background.
I would recommend giving Shy Sally a job to do (taking attendance, over-seeing the equipment, etc.). Wallflowers are shy and insecure and also may be depressed. They feel invisible and contribute to this feeling by becoming invisible! By giving her a task to do, a coach can help build her confidence and her visibility. Shy Sally can also get to know the coach better and perhaps some of the coach’s attention and affection will also boost her sense of self.